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Post by vectorman on Aug 28, 2017 14:48:24 GMT
So I know there's quite a lot of people who struggle with sleep. Keep waking up at between 6 and 7 at the mo myself, dunno what brought this on all the sudden (well maybe I do) but it gets to about 3 or 4 in the afternoon and I could seriously have a snooze. Me noggin has already switched off for the day a lot of the time by this point, might have another burst in the evening. So use to just going the whole day without sleeping, would it be wise to just... Sleep???
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2017 18:50:38 GMT
My sleep is usually all over the place. I just sleep when I'm feeling tired, whatever time of day it is. I generally get some sleep in the second half of the night, and then a couple of bits more sleep here and there.
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Post by saphireeyes on Aug 28, 2017 23:23:13 GMT
I notice I sleep when ever opposing to the norm of sleep of what seems is minimum of 6-8 hours as well. I wake up when I feel I have rested and this seems like it has been only been from anywhere from minutes to a mere 3-5 hours of rest/down time. It is rather horrible when my own love of 3 + years, he needs a solid exact no less than 8 hours himself and this is hard on me to stare at the walls for 4-6 no less minimum hours while he gets to have his full eight square hours of sleep. I have to sit around doing literally nothing but wait...I wait for his work breaks and... I can't even really play music or go get dressed to go out leave my place to let him sleep this really is not a life... I can't do anything if I leave he gets angry then leaves and I never get to see him for more or less than at all throughout the day after his 12 hours of work I don't even get to see him for the lesser of 2 hours of free time for me he works or at all after... since he picks up his brother today... so I will hardly see him after he sleeps five hours after he drives his brother to work and he sleeps his eight hours... I seem to lead not any life with him... he claims he does everything for me or spends all of his free time with me.. he says I don't appreciate him.... I love him very much, and I do appreciate every thing he has every done for me and I need him, but two hours is not much free time with me ... I miss him... Out of 12 hours of waiting for him... I am tired and bored with life for waiting... It is lonely...I'm wondering what I get out of this... if he is being so mean to sleep on me like this all of the time...I feel I am more alone than with him unless he is asleep from "work"...it feels... especially if I can type this all out.... I miss him and I love him.. but I am getting the feeling either he is having an affair possibly (is he?) ... or has left me... for 99% of the time to be alone to punish me... cause I am here with him but he wont pay much attention towards me... or care what I am up to... nor do I notice I feel he ever gives a shit... I am kind of sad... because I feel he is so distant from me...I feel he seems unfair and uncaring for me... He is so angry at me all of the time when I do wake him if I ever do...I feel he pays not any attention towards me too... Not sure what to do cause I still love him but I hurt from what he has been like towards me when he ignores me through sleeping all the time in the day mostly hi square (8 hours)....Does anyone know if there is a way for him to respect and care for me ever again???I feel I've lost his respect, attention and affection... I feel so ugly, unlovable, unreasonable, and not so lovely to him...I am not sure how to keep busy while in the same spot as him sleeping too and be able to let him have his 8 normal hours and not wake him up without feeling neglected also... I know I should not feel this way also...suggestions? I don't have any if many friends... For obviously this reason...likely...I am sleep ignorant I guess...maybe it is me...
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Post by psychicvampire on Aug 29, 2017 5:26:07 GMT
My sleep pattern is all over the shop thanks to the inconsideration of others. Worked so damn hard on getting 12+ hours a night only for a bunch of selfish pricks to come along, who continually spoil my enjoyment.
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Post by psychicvampire on Aug 29, 2017 6:01:56 GMT
I notice I sleep when ever opposing to the norm of sleep of what seems is minimum of 6-8 hours as well. I wake up when I feel I have rested and this seems like it has been only been from anywhere from minutes to a mere 3-5 hours of rest/down time. It is rather horrible when my own love of 3 + years, he needs a solid exact no less than 8 hours himself and this is hard on me to stare at the walls for 4-6 no less minimum hours while he gets to have his full eight square hours of sleep. I have to sit around doing literally nothing but wait...I wait for his work breaks and... I can't even really play music or go get dressed to go out leave my place to let him sleep this really is not a life... I can't do anything if I leave he gets angry then leaves and I never get to see him for more or less than at all throughout the day after his 12 hours of work I don't even get to see him for the lesser of 2 hours of free time for me he works or at all after... since he picks up his brother today... so I will hardly see him after he sleeps five hours after he drives his brother to work and he sleeps his eight hours... I seem to lead not any life with him... he claims he does everything for me or spends all of his free time with me.. he says I don't appreciate him.... I love him very much, and I do appreciate every thing he has every done for me and I need him, but two hours is not much free time with me ... I miss him... Out of 12 hours of waiting for him... I am tired and bored with life for waiting... It is lonely...I'm wondering what I get out of this... if he is being so mean to sleep on me like this all of the time...I feel I am more alone than with him unless he is asleep from "work"...it feels... especially if I can type this all out.... I miss him and I love him.. but I am getting the feeling either he is having an affair possibly (is he?) ... or has left me... for 99% of the time to be alone to punish me... cause I am here with him but he wont pay much attention towards me... or care what I am up to... nor do I notice I feel he ever gives a shit... I am kind of sad... because I feel he is so distant from me...I feel he seems unfair and uncaring for me... He is so angry at me all of the time when I do wake him if I ever do...I feel he pays not any attention towards me too... Not sure what to do cause I still love him but I hurt from what he has been like towards me when he ignores me through sleeping all the time in the day mostly hi square (8 hours)....Does anyone know if there is a way for him to respect and care for me ever again???I feel I've lost his respect, attention and affection... I feel so ugly, unlovable, unreasonable, and not so lovely to him...I am not sure how to keep busy while in the same spot as him sleeping too and be able to let him have his 8 normal hours and not wake him up without feeling neglected also... I know I should not feel this way also...suggestions? I don't have any if many friends... For obviously this reason...likely...I am sleep ignorant I guess...maybe it is me... Sounds like you need a new fella. I hear vectorman is back on the market... I'd personally find it too difficult dealing with a partner who gets by on a meagre 6 hours. Like to go to bed between 9-11pm myself then rise from the dead again at lunchtime. |
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Post by vectorman on Aug 29, 2017 8:14:34 GMT
I notice I sleep when ever opposing to the norm of sleep of what seems is minimum of 6-8 hours as well. I wake up when I feel I have rested and this seems like it has been only been from anywhere from minutes to a mere 3-5 hours of rest/down time. It is rather horrible when my own love of 3 + years, he needs a solid exact no less than 8 hours himself and this is hard on me to stare at the walls for 4-6 no less minimum hours while he gets to have his full eight square hours of sleep. I have to sit around doing literally nothing but wait...I wait for his work breaks and... I can't even really play music or go get dressed to go out leave my place to let him sleep this really is not a life... I can't do anything if I leave he gets angry then leaves and I never get to see him for more or less than at all throughout the day after his 12 hours of work I don't even get to see him for the lesser of 2 hours of free time for me he works or at all after... since he picks up his brother today... so I will hardly see him after he sleeps five hours after he drives his brother to work and he sleeps his eight hours... I seem to lead not any life with him... he claims he does everything for me or spends all of his free time with me.. he says I don't appreciate him.... I love him very much, and I do appreciate every thing he has every done for me and I need him, but two hours is not much free time with me ... I miss him... Out of 12 hours of waiting for him... I am tired and bored with life for waiting... It is lonely...I'm wondering what I get out of this... if he is being so mean to sleep on me like this all of the time...I feel I am more alone than with him unless he is asleep from "work"...it feels... especially if I can type this all out.... I miss him and I love him.. but I am getting the feeling either he is having an affair possibly (is he?) ... or has left me... for 99% of the time to be alone to punish me... cause I am here with him but he wont pay much attention towards me... or care what I am up to... nor do I notice I feel he ever gives a shit... I am kind of sad... because I feel he is so distant from me...I feel he seems unfair and uncaring for me... He is so angry at me all of the time when I do wake him if I ever do...I feel he pays not any attention towards me too... Not sure what to do cause I still love him but I hurt from what he has been like towards me when he ignores me through sleeping all the time in the day mostly hi square (8 hours)....Does anyone know if there is a way for him to respect and care for me ever again???I feel I've lost his respect, attention and affection... I feel so ugly, unlovable, unreasonable, and not so lovely to him...I am not sure how to keep busy while in the same spot as him sleeping too and be able to let him have his 8 normal hours and not wake him up without feeling neglected also... I know I should not feel this way also...suggestions? I don't have any if many friends... For obviously this reason...likely...I am sleep ignorant I guess...maybe it is me... Ivy, you don't have to shout or write in blue you know.. Will get the message loud and clear either way  So your fella is working all the time yeah? 12 hours, man if I was working that long I'd be grouchy and likely wanting rest too (think most would). Can't imagine he'd have time for affairs either if those working hours are correct and it might be why he's struggling to show you any affection too. Can't be easy though - maybe he could find another job with less hours?. Have you ever said everything you've written here to him? |
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Post by saphireeyes on Aug 31, 2017 7:00:12 GMT
well his" affair" I finally figured out after giving him a good ol what seemed like an hour long silent treatment was...and as it turned out to be... also I let him wash my laundry for a evening step into world clothes and a ladies life of washing my intimates and undergarments for a day... and after this he opened up to me...he finally I think he either 1) wanted to either marry me as he said or 2) dump me...finally he said... he wanted to 1) marry me 2) and he was smoking and drinking still. AH... it all comes together now... all those nights he left me alone. All those times he was angry.. had no meaning anymore unless I can now reason it with the fact he wanted to have a cigarette of have a beer...Also it had me question if he really wanted to dump me or marry me for real... but thus far he is still by my side.. I mind as well stay with him... I am not sleeping beside him currently...but his place I sleep beside him better than at my place...As you all knew why...earlier mentioned...the troubles with bugs I had. also I have told him what was up...this also might have launched his butt to be honest and straight with me Finally... not sure what did after two years of that charade I'm still not sure what got him to be...maybe it seemed I have no one to talk to...left friend wise.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 31, 2017 10:59:26 GMT
well his" affair" I finally figured out after giving him a good ol what seemed like an hour long silent treatment was...and as it turned out to be... also I let him wash my laundry for a evening step into world clothes and a ladies life of washing my intimates and undergarments for a day... and after this he opened up to me...he finally I think he either 1) wanted to either marry me as he said or 2) dump me...finally he said... he wanted to 1) marry me 2) and he was smoking and drinking still. AH... it all comes together now... all those nights he left me alone. All those times he was angry.. had no meaning anymore unless I can now reason it with the fact he wanted to have a cigarette of have a beer...Also it had me question if he really wanted to dump me or marry me for real... but thus far he is still by my side.. I mind as well stay with him... I am not sleeping beside him currently...but his place I sleep beside him better than at my place...As you all knew why...earlier mentioned...the troubles with bugs I had. also I have told him what was up...this also might have launched his butt to be honest and straight with me Finally... not sure what did after two years of that charade I'm still not sure what got him to be...maybe it seemed I have no one to talk to...left friend wise. I'm glad that you finally know what's going on. |
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Post by vectorman on Aug 31, 2017 22:04:21 GMT
well his" affair" I finally figured out after giving him a good ol what seemed like an hour long silent treatment was...and as it turned out to be... also I let him wash my laundry for a evening step into world clothes and a ladies life of washing my intimates and undergarments for a day... and after this he opened up to me...he finally I think he either 1) wanted to either marry me as he said or 2) dump me...finally he said... he wanted to 1) marry me 2) and he was smoking and drinking still. AH... it all comes together now... all those nights he left me alone. All those times he was angry.. had no meaning anymore unless I can now reason it with the fact he wanted to have a cigarette of have a beer...Also it had me question if he really wanted to dump me or marry me for real... but thus far he is still by my side.. I mind as well stay with him... I am not sleeping beside him currently...but his place I sleep beside him better than at my place...As you all knew why...earlier mentioned...the troubles with bugs I had. also I have told him what was up...this also might have launched his butt to be honest and straight with me Finally... not sure what did after two years of that charade I'm still not sure what got him to be...maybe it seemed I have no one to talk to...left friend wise. "affair" as in he had an affair? what when, am I reading this right lol.. I dunno??? oh it was he wanted a ciggy and a beer or two - that was the route cause. Withdrawal? |
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Post by saphireeyes on Sept 4, 2017 4:27:57 GMT
oh I doubt it was just beer or two more likely a, case or a few... yes or ciggys two packs...my sister said it wasn't about his drinking it was more about the fact I suspected this all along and he should have felt guilty at least or immorally wrong for lying to me in the first place the whole time not for getting venomly angry then leaving me for thinking he was. then drinking "just cause I thought he might have been even if he might not have been exactly that time every time etc. or every time I was wrong or even one time I was and other times I was right"....Even if I was wrong does this mean he should have go out and done it just in spite of me being wrong? should he go out prove me wrong by cheating to prove me right? but it's okay I guess I am trying to 's like for example if I said he cheated does this mean he should go out and cheat just cause I was so wrong I was so far off wrong that I should be proven I am right? that i was right all a long" cope with this I guess.. as I guess I should live and learn... I met him he never smoked near or around me that I recalled... I met him he had 1 gin and ginger ale.. I should have assumed he would be anything else than who he was anyways.. now I am wondering if talk to him further tonight about this very thing... what kind of reaction or answer i will get...
anyways how is every one else sleeping??? I am waiting for him to get onto his breaks tonight.. rather lonely evening with out him... I do love and need him in my live despite his faults I do love him very much... no one is perfect..im not... he was trying to quit and nothing comes easily... I will hand that to him...
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Post by vectorman on Sept 4, 2017 8:18:19 GMT
So you was suspecting he was drinking because you think he might of suspected you was thinking he was drinking lol.. Have I got that right? sorry it does read quite funny really Would you mind if he was boozing and smoking around you?. He's promised to try and stop yeah? man kicking these habits. Would say about me Broth right now because he had a booze problem Ivy.. I say had look  Don't blame you for getting in bit of a tizz about all this though, believe me I know how that feels when the paranoia kicks in, to right I do (every time happens to me lol). Your mind starts to play tricks on you and you could swear sh*** going down yeah? that's what the noggin is telling you. You can get to know someone in such a way that we can kind of read them but we canni read their minds. The way someone speaks to us their body language and all that jazz can only tell us so much can't it. I'm not sleeping to bad now myself, still waking up pretty early but not quite as stressed as I was. |
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Post by saphireeyes on Sept 5, 2017 13:45:18 GMT
So you was suspecting he was drinking because you think he might of suspected you was thinking he was drinking lol.. Have I got that right? sorry it does read quite funny really Would you mind if he was boozing and smoking around you?. He's promised to try and stop yeah? man kicking these habits. Would say about me Broth right now because he had a booze problem Ivy.. I say had look Don't blame you for getting in bit of a tizz about all this though, believe me I know how that feels when the paranoia kicks in, to right I do (every time happens to me lol). Your mind starts to play tricks on you and you could swear sh*** going down yeah? that's what the noggin is telling you. You can get to know someone in such a way that we can kind of read them but we canni read their minds. The way someone speaks to us their body language and all that jazz can only tell us so much can't it. I'm not sleeping to bad now myself, still waking up pretty early but not quite as stressed as I was. yes I suspected I been thinking he was drinking...you have that right... I rather him not hide it from me at all or in fact I rather that he just not do it at all ... yes kick those habits altogether I would rather...it turned out my suspicion/ gut feelings have been right all along though!!! he told me the truth after he did my laundry he told me all and came clean after my struggles were real... I thought I was the crazy one... and I thought I was losing faculty all along I was right......HE HAS BEEN drinking and smoking.. his temperament was that of not of a sober human being after all... I was not sleeping bad two night in a row there...prior the bed bugs calmed down ... now they're rehatched I guess...and on the move while bf is at work and away to not be there for me as always... tomorrow he will sleep through all of this for his 8 square hours or yelling at me if he doesn't get his FULL eight square hours... like he did yesterday for only getting only his six hours of sleep... during the day or for not having his cigarette.... ( annoyed ) grrrr I am plain annoyed how he smokes.. I am starting to wonder what I get from this relationship anymore... I love him but gosh man I wish he never lied to me about smoking and drinking it really ruins my trust in him also made me felt like I was the crazy one all along... the whole time.. he still treats me like this now if I get upset he is about to smoke or drink or leave me alone to abandon me to go do those two things for hours on end... there has to be a better solution than for him to abandon me for his "pressure/ stress" now...so I wonder if the "pressure and stress got to him" would he cheat on me?? the less sleep I get the more stress I am getting here.... that is good you're less stressed than you were and not too bad now...I am waking up pretty early too and staying up late myself too... my own fault though or the bed bugs...still... mostly I mean... |
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Post by saphireeyes on Sept 5, 2017 13:49:53 GMT
Me TOO!well his" affair" I finally figured out after giving him a good ol what seemed like an hour long silent treatment was...and as it turned out to be... also I let him wash my laundry for a evening step into world clothes and a ladies life of washing my intimates and undergarments for a day... and after this he opened up to me...he finally I think he either 1) wanted to either marry me as he said or 2) dump me...finally he said... he wanted to 1) marry me 2) and he was smoking and drinking still. AH... it all comes together now... all those nights he left me alone. All those times he was angry.. had no meaning anymore unless I can now reason it with the fact he wanted to have a cigarette of have a beer...Also it had me question if he really wanted to dump me or marry me for real... but thus far he is still by my side.. I mind as well stay with him... I am not sleeping beside him currently...but his place I sleep beside him better than at my place...As you all knew why...earlier mentioned...the troubles with bugs I had. also I have told him what was up...this also might have launched his butt to be honest and straight with me Finally... not sure what did after two years of that charade I'm still not sure what got him to be...maybe it seemed I have no one to talk to...left friend wise. I'm glad that you finally know what's going on. |
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Post by vectorman on Sept 5, 2017 19:30:17 GMT
So you was suspecting he was drinking because you think he might of suspected you was thinking he was drinking lol.. Have I got that right? sorry it does read quite funny really Would you mind if he was boozing and smoking around you?. He's promised to try and stop yeah? man kicking these habits. Would say about me Broth right now because he had a booze problem Ivy.. I say had look Don't blame you for getting in bit of a tizz about all this though, believe me I know how that feels when the paranoia kicks in, to right I do (every time happens to me lol). Your mind starts to play tricks on you and you could swear sh*** going down yeah? that's what the noggin is telling you. You can get to know someone in such a way that we can kind of read them but we canni read their minds. The way someone speaks to us their body language and all that jazz can only tell us so much can't it. I'm not sleeping to bad now myself, still waking up pretty early but not quite as stressed as I was. yes I suspected I been thinking he was drinking...you have that right... I rather him not hide it from me at all or in fact I rather that he just not do it at all ... yes kick those habits altogether I would rather...it turned out my suspicion/ gut feelings have been right all along though!!! he told me the truth after he did my laundry he told me all and came clean after my struggles were real... I thought I was the crazy one... and I thought I was losing faculty all along I was right......HE HAS BEEN drinking and smoking.. his temperament was that of not of a sober human being after all... I was not sleeping bad two night in a row there...prior the bed bugs calmed down ... now they're rehatched I guess...and on the move while bf is at work and away to not be there for me as always... tomorrow he will sleep through all of this for his 8 square hours or yelling at me if he doesn't get his FULL eight square hours... like he did yesterday for only getting only his six hours of sleep... during the day or for not having his cigarette.... ( annoyed ) grrrr I am plain annoyed how he smokes.. I am starting to wonder what I get from this relationship anymore... I love him but gosh man I wish he never lied to me about smoking and drinking it really ruins my trust in him also made me felt like I was the crazy one all along... the whole time.. he still treats me like this now if I get upset he is about to smoke or drink or leave me alone to abandon me to go do those two things for hours on end... there has to be a better solution than for him to abandon me for his "pressure/ stress" now...so I wonder if the "pressure and stress got to him" would he cheat on me?? the less sleep I get the more stress I am getting here.... that is good you're less stressed than you were and not too bad now...I am waking up pretty early too and staying up late myself too... my own fault though or the bed bugs...still... mostly I mean... I've seen this myself for years Ivy with the booze, my brother was an alkie and it ultimately ended in him passing away. If that's not incentive enough to stop I dunno what is, popping yer clogs.. I'm not sure how bad he's got it, hard to judge on what you've been saying but yeah, it ain't good for him that's for sure. Would you say he's an alcoholic then? if he's got it bad surely you'd hear him slurring his words and stuff.. And what happens when he comes home from work then, just wants to sleep does he and when's the boozing hours?. Sorry you have to go through it anyhoo, dunno what to say really as I feel like I'm being an interfering old git again lol. I suppose sometimes if you love someone enough you just have to grin and bare it. And yeah woke up at 6 something today, waaaaaaaaaay to early. Back to stressing again I guess lol |
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Post by vectorman on Sept 7, 2017 7:10:11 GMT
Half seven awake today after going to bed at about 3… zzzzzzzz
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